Please ensure you have completed each of the steps of Core before starting this module to ensure you are in the very best state, with your toolbox full to the brim. It will make a big impact on the efficacy of the resources shared.

To support your own journey to staying in your own lane, this module includes not only the content below this video, but also two masterclasses. 

These are from handpicked guest experts Dr Sophie Mort, clinical psychologist and best selling author and Persia Lawson, leading specialist love coach and founder of ‘Get Your Soulmate’. Both of these will be available in August. 

In this module, we’ll go beyond the platitudes of “just unfollow someone on social media”, as we bring sharp focus to comparing life milestones and what it feels like to be potentially ‘falling behind’.

This area - comparing our life milestones - is widespread, runs deep, can be very persistent and also comes in layers which is why there is so much here in the club to help you. 

That said, I hope in this special module, that our focus supports you even further to forge the person you are here to be, arrive at the achievements you wish to reach and form the connections and bonds you most want to enjoy in your life.

Because of the tenderness of this topic, I highly encourage you to seek extra support with a qualified therapist, if it feels necessary.

As with each step of Core you will have completed up to now, start at the beginning of the exercises below, take your time and be guided right back to you. 

Harvest trust 

There’s a special term used in horticulture which is ‘propagating’. That is, the method of rooting stems in soil, trimmed from other plants in order to grow more plants in your garden.

When snipped at the right time these stems develop their own roots and become brand new plants, growing strong in their own right.

Up next, we are going to borrow from our green-fingered friends today as we commit to trusting the timing of our lives.

Check the sell-by date

If traditional milestones were a banana in a fruit bowl - they would be so out of date they would be shrivelled and brown. An absolute health hazard!

With that said, due to societal pressures, outdated expectations and the noise of social media, it’s almost impossible not to be drawn into a false belief that certain things have to happen by a certain age or time.

Click the link below to be taken to the next exercise which will give you a fresh and vital approach to milesones

Fill yourself up. Fill the time.

This has absolutely nothing to do with distracting yourself or bypassing the reality of a situation, and everything to do with investing so deeply in yourself that you’re unshakeable in your commitment to your own journey.

So often, when we find ourselves worrying about falling behind, or feeling like we are inferior because we don’t have something, we stay stuck looking outside ourselves at what we can control.

Time zone tune up

There is no ahead or behind, but there are time zones and yours is unique to you just as mine is to me.

Just because you feel you should be at a certain place or having a certain experience does NOT mean that all is lost and that there is only lack.

Have the moment

Finally for now, I’m building on what we covered in Module 10 here and please use this as an invitation to reinforce that learning and go deeper.

When the comparison strikes and, with that, the emotions that come with it, the temptation is to go down one of two routes:

1. Mindless rage, outrage and/or frustration at that particular person/ the trigger and the perceived unfairness of it all.

2. A moment of ‘oh no’ followed by a spiral into tender feelings of insecurity and then guilt at the judgement you’ve felt towards the other person/or trigger.

Either way you go, use this exercise so you don’t get swept away

GUEST MASTERCLASSES

Persia Lawson

Known as ‘one of the UK’s most successful Love Coaches’ by The Times, there’s nothing Persia doesn’t know about priming ourselves to attract and build lasting and healthy love into our lives!

When it feels like everyone else is coupled up and the invites to weddings arrive like clockwork, it’s easy to feel like we’ll never meet our match, or enjoy our very own serious romantic partnerships. In her upcoming workshop, Persia shares the process that not only heals heartbreak, but sets the scene for true love to come in, starting now.

Recommended Reading: Earth is Hiring by Peta Kelly

For more about Persia’s work: www.persialawson.com

Dr. Soph

Hailed as ‘the therapist and best friend the world deserves’, who better to guide us on how to deal with comparing to life’s milestones, than the author of ‘A manual for being human’.

Dr Soph shares not only her insights from years as a clinical practitioner and yet also offers us real-world advice that we can start using today to get back in our own lane.

Find out more about Dr Soph’s work: https://drsoph.com/

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