This is a self-focus step.

You might want a cup of tea for this one as we are about to ‘go there’. Up until this point, when we are triggered by comparison, that is, we experience an intense physical and/or emotional reaction, we can get caught up in a spin. But in this step, we are going to break the cycle and instead get to the root of what’s really going on with your comparison. 

You have nothing to fear and there’s nothing to worry about and yet, this is a pretty deep exercise of reflection which will hold your focus on things you may not have noticed or wanted to notice.

WORKSHEET

Take your time and work through the different steps methodically for each of your different types of comparison in the worksheet here:

[Please download a copy to edit. Tip! Save to a ‘CORE’ folder on your desktop/save to a CORE folder in your bookmarks]

Or you can follow the prompts below and take it ‘one compare at a time’... 

Bring to mind the way you compare yourself that you really want to stop. 

Rate your comparison score from 0 to 10 (0 is no comparison, 10 is intense and regular comparison)

What was your first encounter with comparison in this area? It may be back in your childhood or at a different time in your life.

Recall and note down a recent experience of comparison in this area…

Recall and note down another memory or instance of comparing yourself in this area...

Drawing your attention now to these events, what links them? What do they have in common?

If you didn’t compare in this way at all what would the result be? 

What's YOUR version of success in this area? Describe it here in full detail. What does it look like, sound like, feel like?

Looking back at your score, what can you do to reduce comparison by just a point or two?

One year from now what are the things you would like to happen/to have changed for you in this area? What are you reporting to me over a cup of tea?

What could your half way point look like (By the date 6 months from now, I will have...)

What can you do within the next 7 days? To step towards your freedom in this area? (This week I have...)

Journal prompts even more clarity:

What’s your crystal of insight after this session? 

What do your comparison triggers show you that you want more of in your life? 

What are your comparison triggers teaching you? 

What next steps can you put in place after finding your crystal of insight?”

Have a giggle at this throwback episode of The Crystal Maze here!

Bonus Exercise

Please download this Crystal of Insight worksheet and share your findings with the group!

[Please download a copy to edit. Tip! Save to a ‘CORE’ folder on your desktop/save to a CORE folder in your bookmarks]

SHARE

What’s your ‘crystal of insight’, after unpicking your comparison?
Share with us over in the community using the ‘CORE • 3. Triggers & Insights’ topic tag!

NEXT STEPS

Move onto ‘Soul Goals and Defining Your Own Success’ to achieve crystal clarity on what you really want.