THE SCOUT
As The Scout, you’re really good at assessing and ranking against the people closest to you or that you see the most, whether this is on social media or in real life - like at work or in social situations.
You tend to compare in a general way - to lots of the people you know, at various times and in lots of different ways. For example, you compare yourself to friends, colleagues and neighbours across both personal and professional topics, which can be exhausting and make you feel like you’re widely underachieving and inferior to your peers.
It’s fair to say that you don’t compare that much to randoms on the internet - like celebs or bloggers - but people that you know in real life can get your comparison going and cause you a distraction.
This especially applies to hearing personal updates in a group chat or at work functions and seeing images and videos that give the impression that the people you know are happier and more successful than you.
And this shows up for Scouts in a few different ways, for example:
You might feel exhausted ‘keeping tabs’ on the people in your life
You may feel like you used to have more going for you, and you could better keep up with your friends
Perhaps you feel like you should be more like some of the people you know or have more things like they do
This can suck your time as you spend ages wondering and even sometimes gossipping about people you know, feeling resentment, scrolling various feeds for clues and info about their lives.
In reality, this causes you to feel lesser than and worried your own life will never progress the way you want it to.
I’ll follow up with some more tools to help you soon, but if I could give you one piece of advice right now, drawing on my experience helping thousands of people cure their comparison over nearly ten years, it would be this: FOCUS ON YOUR FOCUS.
Let’s break it down - you’re leaking energy, attention, resources and time ranking yourself against the achievements, experiences and progress of your mates, family and/or colleagues.
But what do YOU really want? What motivates YOU? What does fulfilment look like for YOU if you only had your own vision to rely on.
In The Club, we are led by this beautiful and unique approach to setting our goals - there’s an easy process to follow to unlock them. But some of the topline ways to connect with yours is understanding that these goals are already housed in your solar plexus as opposed to floating around in your brain. This is the area of your body where your self-image and identity lives.
This is also where you create from your own power - from a place that sustains itself.
Because they come from deep inside, your soul goals are without question uniquely and rightfully yours. How do you know? Because they make you FEEL something difficult to describe - you don’t just want them because other people do or because it’s cool and trendy!
When was the last time you approached your goals in this way? From a place of deep knowing inside you? To provide a taster, have a think about and journal your answers to these questions:
What are you not allowing yourself to want and desire right now?
If you were to be really honest with yourself, what have you always wanted but never received?
What would it feel like to have all of those things, experiences and people available to you?
What do you find you envy most about others?
What does this tell you about your unmet desires?
As The Scout, you need to crowd out the influence of other people that you know and their overwhelming updates and claim your own version of radical clarity.