THE ARCHER
As The Archer, you’re good at honing in on a specific topic at a distance.
Your comparison is intensely concentrated on one particular topic or one stranger, or a small group of strangers on the internet. For example, you might compare your career to other brands or people in your industry, but you couldn’t care less about people’s relationships or travel plans.
You tend to compare in a specific and targeted way. This can be a bit exhausting and make you feel like you’re widely underachieving in this area, especially when it comes to what you consume on your social media feeds.
It’s fair to say that you are fairly unbothered by comparison outside of your particular ‘hot spot’ topic, and you don’t compare much to the people in your immediate circle or geographical space - like your family and friends.
That said, people on Instagram or in the public eye can get your comparison going and cause you a distraction. This especially applies to accounts and people that post updates, images and videos that give the impression they are effortlessly achieving great things when it comes to your comparison trigger topic - think perfect looking home, harmonious families, incredible professional accolades (“Another 6 figure month!” and so on).
This can suck your time as you spend ages scrolling specific feeds, having certain people under surveillance, collecting clues and info about what they are doing but in reality, this causes you to lose sight of the bigger picture and the resources and skills that you alone can leverage to make your own progress.
I’ll follow up with some more tools to help you soon, but if I could give you one piece of advice right now, drawing on my experience helping thousands of people cure their comparison over nearly seven years, it would be this: WORK ON YOUR SENSE OF WORTH.
Let’s break it down - you’re leaking energy, attention, resources and time, keeping track of other people and scanning their achievements, experiences and progress in the area that fires you up.
All the while, you are focusing on what you are not doing, achieving, what is not happening rather than building up your condition and ability to make moves in this area.
Building your worth doesn’t have to happen overnight, but you can make big strides starting now. In my membership, Comparison Free Club, I have many key tools that make this process easy, but for now, let me highlight a first step that I have seen transform people countless times.
Let’s start with contemplating your answers to these questions…
Who is the person that captures your interest and you’re always keen to be around?
Who do you look up to and why?
Who have you put on a pedestal in the past because you longed to be like them or do what they do?
Because these people stir something up in you, there’s a good chance they belong in your PIPs list. That is the group of people who PROVE IT’S POSSIBLE for you. This is invaluable for us to arrive at to appreciate other people’s paths to success as we carve out our own.
Next, who do you compare to? (This could be your past self)
Ultimately, the person that triggers our comparison the most is showing us what’s possible in the most uncomfortable way. If you can be open to that and instead choose to work on being inspired by them, that can be a PIP. Now, THIS one takes a bit of work which is why we cover it carefully through the course of the membership.